A while back, I became the house photographer and webmaster for a chain of brothels in New York City. Rather than take payment in cash, I took my remuneration "in the room."

Knowing I couldn't "be nine" with the girls, I felt it paramount to be benign with them. I certainly didn't want to get a reputation as a disgusting trick when I had virtually become "one of them" (as one girl observed).

From who most people would call dysfunctional, I learned a lot about being a functional lover. I completely agree with almost everything you've said here, and am painfully aware that a lot of men aren't.

It's tough enough being a man in this society, but I don't think I'd want to trade genders. Finding a decent guy seems like it could be a needle in a haystack pursuit.

On my old blog, I suggested that men who liked to cum on women's faces demonstrated a thinly-veiled dislike for women - even if they craved their bodies and adulation. The negative response was overwhelming. My readers just didn't see it.